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November 23rd, 2008 at 10:25 am

There are days when I feel that things will never work between me and my husband. We are just two different people, and want different things in life. I like to save so that someday, I won't have to worry about money. The husband is all about living in the now, spend money now to feel good about yourself and worry about everything later. I just don't want to live like that.

Yesterday, he transfered money into his account from our savings, and I nearly had a panic attack. I thought we agreed we wouldn't touch the money, and just pretend the money didn't exist. I was WRONG!! The thing that pissed me off more was that he was using the money on alcohol. I don't know how to get through to him, and make him realize how all this money stuff is important to me.

4 Responses to “Differences”

  1. gamecock43 Says:

    your husbands will understand as soon as a big emergency comes along. As soon as a kid lands in the hospital, sewer pipes explode or xbox breaks down. Sometimes that is the only way to wake them up. I understand your frustration though.

  2. Koppur Says:

    I'm sorry you are going through such a frusterating time. Would you consider having a separate savings account? I.E. one he doesn't know about? I'm not a fan of secrets between partners, but it may make you feel better to know that if somehing were to happen you ad a savings to rely on that hasn't been touched. Or, if you decide to travel or have a big spend, you have your own money for that. I think everyone (men and women) should have their own personal savings, no matter if they have a joint one with a partner or not.

  3. Ms. Pearl Says:

    I'm sorry about everything. What was helpful for my husband and I was to sit down and look at every single bill we had. Then we agreed to a plan to pay off these bills. My husband (like myself) likes to spend money too! But, deciding on a plan together really helped. And by the way, I have a savings just in my name for our travel fund. He knows about it though...but he didn't for awhile!

  4. CouponAddict Says:

    Maybe it is time for you to join the $20 Challenge!

    I fund my $20 Challenge with money I have saved the family (shopping CVS using coupons and selling stuff), and of course Mad Money. That way it is not like I am taking money away from the family.

    My $20 Challenge is my Emergency Fund because my DH likes to live in the moment and I NEED the security of an Emergency fund.

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