to be back in Hawaii with my family right now. I envy the life I could've had if I had stayed with my dad, but things happen for a reason. I don't regret having a baby and getting married at 18, moving away from family, and living on my own because I'm somewhat proud of the person i've become. Granted, that there are things i'd want to change like getting a degree, a great paying job, etc, but those type of things take time, and as long as I'm still going to school and working towards those things, it'll happen one day.
I just found out that my dad bought his second house in Ewa Beach. The funny thing is that he bought his first house back in July. He's going through all these crazy ventures to make sure my daughters can live a good life. He calls them "Trust Fund babies". I can't believe that my girls have a house, and they're under the age of 5. There's just a catch in order for the to inherit everything from my dad:
1) They have to finish college w/bachelors degree.
2) They can't be married or have babies until after college.
If they don't complete these two things that my dad asks of them, they won't get anything from him which is pretty understandable. My dad had high hopes for me when I was younger, and getting pregnant at 17 wasn't one of them. It was a major disappointment, and he cut me off of his life for two years.
Now, I'm just trying to make my dad proud of me by getting a degree, being successful in whatever I chose to do, and standing on my own financially.
I would do anything
November 16th, 2008 at 06:47 pm
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I particularly like the not-getting-married-until-after-college thing.... as it might give the girls another couple of years to get to know themselves.... discover what they want....
A concern I would have tho... is that with some teenagers.... if you tell them they can't do something, it just makes them want to do it 10 times more.
I admire your father for being so good-intentioned. Money is a great motivator.
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