I don't know if i'm being a little immature, but I'm pissed off!
My husband went to a football game last night, but gave me a bullshit excuse that he had to meet all his single friends three hours before the game started so they can get drunk before the game. We agreed that I was going to pick him up after the game, but after the game ended, he decided he wanted to party w/them. Well, long story short, he didn't come home that night. It's 3:40 p.m. and he just came home.
To me, I don't think any married man should be partying w/his single friends by the college campus housing. I'm irritated that he screws me over all the time, and i'm tired of dealing with him. I'm contemplating a divorce because it's clear that he's not going to change. I figured that since i'm still young, I can find someone else to make me happy instead of waiting for him to change thirty years later.
Am I overreacting?
The D-word
December 7th, 2008 at 10:40 pm
December 7th, 2008 at 11:07 pm 1228691273
Only you know what the limits are to what you will tolerate. I don't think you are out of line expecting a husband who will behave like a husband. I think that everyone should be able to go out and fun some of the time with their friends. An all nighter with single guys ... not even an option here. What would your DH say if you had a night out with the girls and didn't make it home til the next afternoon? Maybe marriage counseling might be in order.
December 8th, 2008 at 12:05 am 1228694746
December 8th, 2008 at 12:09 am 1228694958
If you're unhappy and he doesn't care, well, that's the bigger problem. If it makes you uncomfortable and he doesn't respect that. Better communication or marriage counseling could help. That's my 2 cents.
If my husband was out drunk every night, yeah, that would be another story. Somewhat agree with Analise.
December 8th, 2008 at 12:25 am 1228695932
He walked into the house this afternoon as if he didn't do anything wrong....It hurts me because I don't know what he did at the party. I mean, single friends and he's the only one married, and even better, close to a college campus??
I brought up the suggestion for marriage counseling, and he refuses. Says we didn't need it.
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December 8th, 2008 at 03:30 pm 1228750207
How long have you been married? Has he been acting this way the whole time or is this a one time "I am moving to another state to join the Army and leaving all my buddies behind" type event?
I would be upset about the 3:40pm; I would have expected him to show up at home atleast by 10am. Where was he from 10am until 3:40pm.
December 8th, 2008 at 03:56 pm 1228751766
My husband is the same age as I am, and we'll be married for 4 years in January. Ever since we moved to Tucson, it's always been about drinking and parties. I thought that this was just a phase, but it's been going on ever since.
About the 3:40pm, he said that he decided to sleep in since he doesn't get to do that much w/the kiddos always being loud.
December 8th, 2008 at 05:00 pm 1228755638